Do you find it hard to keep a man? You go on dates with guys who seem interested in you, only to have them disappear a few dates in? I hate to say it but you might be a little too clingy when it comes to relationships.
I don’t care how smart, cute or nice a guy may be, nothing turns me off more than a needy-ass man.
The constant calls, texts asking what are you doing, do you miss me, can I see you? Sure, everybody wants to feel missed and needed on some level, but there comes a point where the clinginess stops being cute and starts becoming a severe pain in the ass.
No man or woman, who has a fulfilling life on their own, wants to be bothered with a date that needs constant contact, support, or validation. The moment you start acting like a needy puppy is the moment your voice becomes natural penis repellent.
The funny thing is that some guys/gals don’t consider themselves or their actions to be needy and you know why… because no one ever tells them that they are.
You can’t really tell someone that they are needy without hurting their feelings and that’s why most of us avoid it so today, we are going to deliver a reality check.
Listed below are 5 signs that you may be too clingy when it comes to dating and relationships. If you find yourself doing any of these behaviors please do yourself a favor and cut it out now…Your love-life may depend on it!
1. Moving Too Fast
Sorry guys, but nothing says needy like a guy who moves too fast. One week into getting to know each other and your already setting up expectations of playing house and being in love?
People who jump into relationships with these types of expectations need the other person to fill a void. They cling to the fantasy of what they want instead of focusing on the reality what they need, which in most cases is not a relationship.
Don’t be afraid to take the time to get to know your love-interest and see if you even like each other before you start planning a future. Otherwise, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
2. Always Available
Just because you are dating someone doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking moment with them. If you find yourself trying to spend all of your free time with your potential love interest, boyfriend or partner, chances are you are a needy individual. It’s time to get out and seek some other activities to keep you busy. If not, your guy may feel pressured and start to rebel in pursuit of freedom.
3.Calling/Texting Too Much
Calling and texting every hour can get exhausting. Your guy doesn’t need to know what you are doing at every single moment of the day, especially if you just started dating. There is such thing as over-exposure so keep the texts scarce and short and sweet when requested.
4. Over Sharing
Sharing can be good for building a connection and being vulnerable but sometimes, people share too much damn information. You don’t have to share every thought or feeling that you have with partner, especially if they didn’t ask. Over-sharing can be perceived as whining and not one person on this earth finds it sexy. Learn to filter because once you put something out there, there’s no taking it back.
I once had guy freak out because he cooked dinner and I wasn’t hungry. All of a sudden, it turned into him thinking I didn’t like his cooking which meant I didn’t like him and we were going to break-up… WTF?
Needy people tend to over-analyze every situation and dramatize it to the umpteenth power. If you find yourself freaking out every time your guy tells you no… you may need to get your emotions in check. Pouting and temper tantrums are pretty much deal breakers for any relationship.